A second note in probably the most intimate thing I have shared so far:
Notes from the conversations I have had with my heart through the years.
This is the second one that I would like to share with you on this blue-skied spring day in The Netherlands. I asked my heart a while ago what I could tell me about unconditional love.
Amidst a time when I was healing from a broken heart and had to walk away from someone despite there being a lot of love.
When you read it, you might be confused.
But it’s my heart speaking to me through my automatic writing. Which does not come from the mind but directly from that inner much wiser source. I share this without much editing, because than it can go straight from my heart to yours.
You can hear by listening to it of read what it said here:
Heart, what is here for me the know about unconditional love?
Dear,
Do not forget…
Everyone wants to be seen for who they are.
The greatest gift you can give people is accepting and loving them exactly as they are. No conditioning, no rules. No need to change.
Giving people the space to breath into themselves.
Because love loves the whole person.
Not part of them. But their fullest being.
And when you love them like that you invite their fullest being in.
Without loosing yourself, because love wants you to love yourself the most so that you can love others the way you love yourself
Love yourself first. Fully and deeply, Even when your think you have failed even when you have fallen.
Love yourself with all the mistakes you think you have made
Be fully compassionate with the whole you, because then you can be that for others.
You cannot be truly compassionate towards others if you judge yourself.
You can only love others the way you love yourself.
BUT do not forget
Living with an open heart does not mean you allow people to hurt you. You have to take care of yourself: Your needs and boundaries. When you live true to them and trust your heart you never have to close it.
You can still feel pain, but you will invite it in to be felt with an open heart. You will say ‘ouch, I feel you’ what do you need? come in.’
And you will never blame anyone else for your pain. Because you will know they are just protecting their heart. And pointing you out where it still hurts.
Love knows what is good for you, love doesn't mean you let somebody take advantage of you.
It just means you always come from a place of love.
So the heart does have boundaries and with boundaries, there is never any resentment or blame for your pain. Resentment happens only when you let someone cross your boundaries
Even when you walk away from someone walk away from a place of love.
Even when you tell someone they hurt you do it from a place of love
An open heart does not mean anyone can walk in and out.
An open heart can be open because it has boundaries.
It is the most loving thing you can do for yourself and others.
Love says not
anything goes my dear
Love is fierce
and love is clear.
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